How To Approach A Woman
It is serious business trying to communicate with women. If you don’t do your homework and practice you will definitely fail this class. With all the bad examples and crazy relationships that women have found themselves a part of, it is no wonder why they are tired of men trying to monopolize their time and take over their lives. The truth is when a man steps into the room a woman sizes him up and knows whether he has a snowballs chance in… well you know what I mean. Women have the ability to spot their type of man like a plane flying on radar and this is where we men can actually reduce the rejection factor.
I am now convinced more men miss opportunities to meet women and there are probably a lot of frustrated women as a result. This is what I believe is the problem. Men don’t understand women, and I mean we haven’t got a clue. If you want to be successful in meeting women the- key- is identifying which women want to meet you. As a man I want to share a story.
“In high school I was the skinny kid with glasses, I was not popular and even though I was pretty good at sports I suffered from serious low self esteem. I was into gymnastics a bit and played basketball against some of the guys on the school team. Many times we outsiders beat the team players on the street court, but still I would be the last to be chosen in a pick up game. I was convinced girls wanted nothing to do with me, and every pretty girl struck fear in my heart. Now, fast forward to graduation. It was a hot summer day and an outdoor ceremony, I was sweating from the heat and I spotted her. Penny whose last name will remain unknown, was a fine young girl and I had a crush on her forever. I finally got up the nerve to approach her in the midst of the crowd and I said to her “I wanted to say goodbye now we are all graduating and I might never see her again, I told her I always liked her” I remember what that felt like to this day, sweating palms locked jaw, and I could not speak loud because my throat was almost closed from the tension on my vocal cords. It almost killed me, but what really stuck the dagger in my heart was her response. In the sweetest voice she said to me “you know, I always liked you too”. I flashed back over the last two years of my life; it really felt like I was dying. How could I be such a punk, idiot, fool, loser. God knows at that moment I could have cried. My reply was “really”. I was too embarrassed to do anything so I said “goodbye” and walked away. I still did not get it even after she gave me the biggest clue (when she told me how she felt) and I never tried to talk to her. I just realized that I blew it.
The moral to the story is that women are sending -signals- all the time to the men they are interested in and rare cases may even tell you (in code) she wants to meet you, and even take it further she may see you as a potential mate. A man can increase his odds of success and reduce the rejection factor if he pays attention. I can’t tell you all the signals but I learned after missing out on the love of my life (Penny) it is up to me to recognize I have certain qualities that are attractive to women and to stop judging myself and them and start paying attention. So having a little TACT, and being GRACEFUL in conversation will go a long way but if she isn’t hot for you, you’re still gonna come up empty. So FELLA’ S
Below are a few clues LADIES tell me if I’m right >>>
TELL TALE SIGNS A WOMAN IS INTERESTED WHEN SHE SEES YOU
-SHE STRAIGHTENS HER BACK QUICKLY WHEN YOU WALK INTO THE ROOM OR CROSS HER PATH
-SHE PULLS HER HAIR BACK AND AWAY FROM HER NECK LINE
-SHE CROSSES HER LEGS AND SUDDENLY YOU SEE MORE OF HER
-SHE TUGS AT HER GIRLFRIEND AND SNEAKS A PEAK
-SHE LOOKS AT YOU, MAKING EYE CONTACT THEN LOOKS AWAY, BUT 30 SECONDS LATER SHE IS CHEKIN YOU OUT AGAIN.
-SHE LOOKS AT YOU, MAKE EYE CONTACT AND GIVES YOU A PARTIAL SMILE
OK that’s all for now and remember that for men and women it is up to you to deal with you’re self esteem. That’s why they call it SELF ESTEEM. Don’t look for others to approve of you, first accept yourself. You are one of a kind and that is a good ting -you are special-you are beautiful. Self acceptance -This is the first strep to releasing the -powerful you- that is hidden under all the negative emotions and experiences life may bring your way. Until next time, “Be You”
